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The Power of You: Polished, Poised, and Proper


The Etiquette School of New York’s Social Success Makeover: Finishing School for Adults is a modern-day finishing school for men and women who want to learn how to make positive first and lasting impressions, feel more comfortable in social and business situations, and polish their personal brands for personal and professional success.


A polished powerful presence rests on three pillars:


1.     Appearance: 

How you look: your style, wardrobe, and grooming

A polished appearance opens doors!  When you cultivate your own presence, you draw admiration from others. Not only will they want to develop friendships with you, they will also want to socialize with you, do business with you, and in some instances, maybe even date and marry you.  

“Look the part by dressing to the level of power you aspire. If you speak eloquently, dress well, and back it up with the social skills to put others at ease, virtually no group will exclude you, “  writes Camille Lavington in her book, “You’ve Got Three Seconds.”


2.     Attitude:

How you carry yourself: your conduct and your body language

Your attitude begins on the inside and shows on the outside. You confirm or contradict your powerful image by using behavioral tools, such as posture, engaging eye contact, a strong handshake, and a ready smile. Are you a confident person? If so, your behavioral tools will convey to others that you are a confident person. Nonverbal cues such as stance, head movements, facial expressions, and gestures clarify your message.

“Fake it till you become it,” advises Amy Cuddy in her book, “Presence.” “By adopting the posture poses of the powerful, you not only boost your mood and outlook, but you affect the way others perceive you.”


3.      Actions:          

How you communicate, interact, and treat others

In our modern world, how you treat others and your actions affect how people view you. Being thoughtful and thinking of others will never go out of style; these are timeless qualities. Having good manners will always be considered a desirable trait in a person. When you are kind and have good manners; treat others as you would like to be treated; and make others feel good about themselves they will want to be around you. Studies show that women actually value kindness above looks as the most important quality for a man to have.

People like people who are interested in them and the world around them. Showing interest in others and the world around you shows that you are not self-absorbed, which will help create positive impressions wherever you go.

“You can make more friends in two months by being interested in them, than in two years by making them interested in you,” writes Dale Carnegie in “How to Win Friends and Influence People.”


The Social Success Makeover: Finishing School for Adults will equip you with the essential etiquette and protocol knowledge, refined social graces, and personal style necessary to polish your personal brand; and it will give you the tools and confidence to consistently present yourself at your personal and professional best in all of your interactions with others.

Are you ready to polish your personal brand to achieve success in your personal and professional life and have fun doing it? Then join us for one of our upcoming classes.



By: Patricia Napier-Fitzpatrick
October 2016 

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